Marriage, Relationships

How to Speak LOVE into Your Marriage

Marriage HelpEach month this year,  we spend one full week together, 5 days for 5 ways of…something.

January was “How to Find the Love of Your Life.”

February was “How to Offload the Mom Guilt.”

And this month, “How to Speak (& spark) LOVE into Your Marriage.”

♥ Love Explosion ♥
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I’ve often wondered how I would feel if all my words and conversations throughout the day were recorded on some weird, techno-audio device, typed up in a word document, and emailed to me for horrific review.

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How would my daily narrative read?

Would I notice repetitive words like- um or let’s see or it’s ok- as my fallback-let-me-think-for-a-minute mutterings?

Would I become aware of consistent negativity?

Would an over-pampering become obvious when I speak to our boys?

Would the words I say to my husband sound critical, complaining, and nagging?

Hmmmm.  I really don’t know.  But, it makes me stop to think.  What about you?

The Bible tells us that our words are quite powerful.

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Pleasant words are a honeycomb, Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24

A worthless man digs up evil, While his words are like scorching fire. Proverbs 16:27

Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.   Proverbs 29:20                      

The tongue corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.   James 3:6


Our words are not only powerful but they go deeper than the audio. They reveal what’s in our heart.

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Jesus says, For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Matthew 12:34b


There are many marriages, your marriages, holding deep hurts, years of twisted communication that needs to be unraveled, or trust that needs to be rebuilt.

In no way can we address those gut-wrenching realities this week. Instead, I offer 5 ideas, 5 phrases to TRY OUTEXPERIMENT ON with your husband.

Whether he deserves it or not.

Whether he responds like you want him to or not.

It’s not about changing him.  It’s about sparking a HEART CHANGE in YOU!

I’m in.

Are you?

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Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14


See you on Monday for Day 1!