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4 more MAMA MANTRAS… To Grow Strong, Godly Men

brothers, my 3 sons, colorado snow
Colorado, 2016

On Thursday, I shared 4 Mama Mantras (things I say on repeat mode) to develop a lasting relationship with my boys. Thank you for your great responses! I loved hearing other mantras you say and will be incorporating them into my tool box.

There are 8 more Mama Mantras that I use over and over again to brainwash my boys (wash their brains in the truth). But, I thought I’d spread them over 2 posts: 4 today and the last 4 on Thursday. Bite-size pieces, you know.

Today, these mantras are purposed to train and teach my boys to be strong, direct, Godly men who stand up and face life with confidence.

1. “You’ve often got to do what you don’t want to do.”  

This is not an easy lesson for any of us, no matter how old we are.  In their boy-world now, the hard, not-so-fun things are unloading the dishwasher, doing homework, picking up dog poop. But later, the challenges and difficulties only escalate. May they be men of diligent action.

Prepare your minds for action. Be self controlled. 1 Peter 1:13

We want each of you to show the same diligence to the very end. We don’t want you to become lazy but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit that was promised. Hebrews 6:11-12

2. “If you want to know, ask. Be brave and direct.” 

This one does not come natural to me. And as an adult, I am still learning. In my earlier years, if there is something I wanted, I would drop hints and hope the other person would pick up on it. I hoped they would initiate what I wanted to happen. Through my 30’s, I experienced such freedom by learning to be direct and ask for what I wanted, graciously and bravely. I hope to drill this into my boys now, so that as men they will be strong and forthright. May they stand tall, ask bravely, and accept whatever the answer may be.

You do not have because you do not ask. James 4:3

3. “We all have our challenges.”

Our oldest was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes 2 1/2 years ago. In our family, that’s “his thing.” Our middle son has amblyopia and is undergoing vision therapy to enhance his depth perception. And, our youngest is allergic to everything. We ALL have our things. We are broken. No one is perfect. It is through these challenges that God shapes us into who He has created us to be. In our house, we talk about this a lot.

Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. 1 Corinthians 15:58

4. “Anything short of honest (no matter how hard it is) is not an option here. Lying is like a prison to your heart.”

It happens at such a young age. Lying to cover-up sin. It is such a natural response. So… from early on (like 3 years old when they begin to shade the truth just a little), I start laying this foundation. I want them to live lives as strong men who are free from the natural inclination to hide. May they know that it isn’t worth it to cover up because lying only traps you, like a prison in your heart. Telling the truth frees you from being held captive. Be brave and own up what you did or how you think.

An easy response they try to give to get off the hook when questioned is “I don’t know.” This doesn’t work for me. They need to at least identify something. I often give them time to figure it out or we brainstorm through it together.

Let your yes be yes and your no no. James 5:12

Let’s brainwash our boys (and daughters) with these truths. May we be intentional boy-moms in what we say and how we raise them to be strong men with strong character who love their God fiercely.

The final 4 mantras coming on Thursday to “Growing Relationship-healthy Men.”

 

amy ruth, writer