Faith, Friendship, Relationships

Day 19: How To Ignite Authentic Friendships

Hiking on a sunlight path near Highlands, NC
Hiking on a sunlight path near Highlands, NC

Our family loves to go hiking, especially in the beautiful, cool mountain trails of North Carolina. Hiking requires putting one foot in front of the other in a repetitive motion. It’s intentional and involves effort. But, the benefits far outweigh the work.

Yesterday, we saw the gifts God gives when we walk in the light: protection and victory. Today, let’s explore another benefit:

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. 1 John 1:7


When we are intentional

about walking in the light

about progressing forward in obedience

about staying close to God and following His light...

about positioning ourselves to reflect Him

…we may just look around and find a friend. Someone who is also walking in the light. And, the fellowship that comes when you are walking the same direction is beautifully special and healthy and fulfilling.

Are you lonely?

Do you want, need, long for close friendships?

For someone who believes the best in you and supports you?

Someone who doesn’t compromise the truth?

Have you tried everything but just haven’t made any deep connections?

I encourage you to try a little experiment:

  1. Stop trying so hard.
  2. Resist the urge to over-plan and manipulate.
  3. Get involved in a local church (community group, Sunday School class, bible study, etc) and be patient. Connection and friendships take time to grow.
  4. Put your energy towards obeying God, embracing what He says is true, reading His word, and walking in the light and be “eyes open” to who He will bless you with.

You might just be surprised at the connection that will happen when you look besides you and discover a friend walking in the same direction– in the light of Jesus.

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amy ruth, writer