Faith, Personal Growth

When You Are Tired of Being Tired

tired of being tired

Some mornings when the 6 a.m. alarm goes off, I AM STILL TIRED! My eyes open up into a pool of weariness.  I step into the exhaustion that I left the day before.

Ugh. It stinks. Do you wonder if there is a pathway out of this lethargy? Yes, my friend. Yes, there is.

3 Questions To Jump Start Your Life When You Are Tired of Being Tired

1. BODY WEARY: Am I really physically weary? 

My doctor says we need about 7-9 hours of sleep a night. That seems like a lot, right? I get going in the craziness of life and don’t even think about the hours of sleep I get a night. I go to bed after a chill time of Netflix watching and I just get up to get the boys off to school- without ever quantifying my sleep time.

So…pause for a moment and calculate the number of hours each night over the course of this week that you have slept. If it’s any less than 7 hours nightly, your weariness might be a physical need. It just might be your body telling you that you need more. Listen to your body and give it what it needs. Go to bed!

2. SOUL WEARY: Am I emotionally weary? 

There are stages of life that are very strenuous and exhausting:

Those first months in which you are all adjusting to a new little one and there are late night feedings and crying and tummy issues and trying to figure out how to really do this mom thing, potty training, the terrible 2’s and 3’s and 4’s, the emergence of your little communicator (around 5 years old) who has found their words and they won’t stop uttering every-single-thing they are thinking! 

Or…going back to work, all the laundry and meals and grocery shopping, starting a new job, moving, carpooling your growing children all over the city!

Also, there can be internal emotional crazies that follow you everywhere you go draining you of energy:

Anxiety, fear, worry, doubt, negative, self-talk, insecurity, feeling overwhelmed, perfectionism, anger, bitterness, control, people-pleasing…

So…identify what is dragging you down. Take out a blank sheet of paper. Make two columns. At the top list “I am weary!” One column: stages of life. The other column: emotional crazies. Now, take some time and list out all the things that are heavy on your shoulders. I mean everything. It’s important to name it and get it out of your soul. It’s like an emotional purging. I often feel so relieved and refreshed just by doing this.

3. HEART weary: Am I spiritually weary? 

Ah, man. This one doesn’t get enough attention. It is probably the most difficult and the most refreshing because it requires some really deep heart searching.

Please, know: you aren’t the only one who has grown weary. King David felt worn out too.

I am worn out from groaning; all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. Psalm 6:6, NIV

Whenever God reveals a problem in the Bible, He always gives a solution.

Sin is the biggest blocker to rest. Rest, true heart-rest, is found in God, found in the truths of God, found in the person of Jesus, and found in the surrender to Him as Lord of your life.

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
    will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1, NIV

Rest comes when you dwell in relationship with God.

Stand at the crossroads and look;
    ask for the ancient paths,
ask where the good way is, and walk in it,
    and you will find rest for your souls.
    But you said, ‘We will not walk in it.’ Jeremiah 6:16, NIV

Rest comes when you obey the truths of God.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:26, NIV

Rest comes when you hand over your burdens to Jesus.

 So…it’s time to get real. It’s time to get spiritual. Ask yourself: Do I have a relationship with God? Do I spend time daily building that relationship? If you answered no to these, please click here.

Is there any disobedience or rebellion in my heart that is blocking me from a clear and free connection with God (pride, self-sufficiency, doubt, fear, distrust…)? Is there any lifestyle or habit this is an outright sin in which I’m unwilling to let go of (getting drunk, lying, sex outside of marriage, gossip, stealing…)?  If you answered yes to these, please explain and elaborate.

Ugh, I know. It’s hard to look at the sin, the ugly. But unless we do, we will remain stuck and weary.

Now, what? Talk to God about it. Walk through each one of these questions and share with Him what you have discovered. Confess any sin that has taken residence in your heart. Ask Him to forgive you. Lay it all out! Cry if you need to. Tears are so refreshing. Make a commitment to obey Him.

Be refreshed, my friend. Do the hard work. I’m cheering for you!

Amy Ruth